Tuesday, June 16, 2020

Blood Brothers - Proper 7.5 (Bonus Post on Genesis 25:7-23)

When I was a D.Min. student at Columbia Theological Seminary in Decatur, Georgia, I co-led a chapel service on July 11, 2003 with the Rev. Barbara Brown Taylor. Yep. That was pretty cool. At the time I was taking her course on the Mystics, which partly explains how Rumi makes his way into the sermon re-posted here. We two Episcopalians in the land of Presbyterians decided to use The Book of Common Prayer to celebrate Holy Eucharist in the chapel.

There was a catch, though. BBT said that she got invited to preach at lots and lots of places but almost no one ever invited her to come and preside at the Eucharist. So she said, "you preach, I'll celebrate." Yikes! Oh yeah, and Walter Brueggemann sat in the front row. It was pretty intimidating. 


Anyway, it was less than two years after 9/11 and I was thinking a lot (as I still do) about deepening relationships and mutual understanding among Christians, Jews, and Muslims. Even though we were Episcopalians leading worship, I broke free from the lectionary that day... These many years later, I offer this sermon without editing it - as a "bonus" post to follow on yesterday's post about Hagar and Ishmael. I do still feel that story-line is worth pursing in interfaith conversations. 

Genesis 25:7-23
7 This is the length of Abraham's life, one hundred seventy-five years. 8Abraham breathed his last and died in a good old age, an old man and full of years, and was gathered to his people. 9His sons Isaac and Ishmael buried him in the cave of Machpelah, in the field of Ephron son of Zohar the Hittite, east of Mamre, 10the field that Abraham purchased from the Hittites. There Abraham was buried, with his wife Sarah. 11After the death of Abraham God blessed his son Isaac. And Isaac settled at Beer-lahai-roi.  

12 These are the descendants of Ishmael, Abraham's son, whom Hagar the Egyptian, Sarah's slave-girl, bore to Abraham. 13These are the names of the sons of Ishmael, named in the order of their birth: Nebaioth, the firstborn of Ishmael; and Kedar, Adbeel, Mibsam, 14Mishma, Dumah, Massa, 15Hadad, Tema, Jetur, Naphish, and Kedemah. 16These are the sons of Ishmael and these are their names, by their villages and by their encampments, twelve princes according to their tribes. 17(This is the length of the life of Ishmael, one hundred thirty-seven years; he breathed his last and died, and was gathered to his people.) 18They settled from Havilah to Shur, which is opposite Egypt in the direction of Assyria; he settled down alongside of all his people.

19 These are the descendants of Isaac, Abraham's son: Abraham was the father of Isaac, 20and Isaac was forty years old when he married Rebekah, daughter of Bethuel the Aramean of Paddan-aram, sister of Laban the Aramean. 21Isaac prayed to the LORD for his wife, because she was barren; and the LORD granted his prayer, and his wife Rebekah conceived. 22The children struggled together within her; and she said, "If it is to be this way, why do I live?" So she went to inquire of the LORD. 23And the LORD said to her,

     "Two nations are in your womb,
         and two peoples born of you shall be divided;
     the one shall be stronger than the other,
         the elder shall serve the younger."

One of the most powerful things I get to do as a pastor is to preside at funerals. Whether the deceased is a long time parishioner or a person who hasn’t been to church in decades, I try to follow the same pattern. I sit down with the surviving family members, and I ask them to tell me about the deceased.

It’s a kind of practical exercise in post-modern epistemology, because very rarely do the stories I hear fit neatly together. What we know is so profoundly shaped by where we stand. Two children grow up in the same household, and yet have very different experiences and memories about what that was like. Even if they are now in their forties or fifties, there are glimpses of what it was like for that person to be twelve, or six—just in the telling of the stories.  I love it when an oldest child tells a story that the younger ones may never before have heard, or known; or at the other end of that continuum, when a youngest child can speak of those moments in the kitchen, late at night, after all the older ones had gone off to college or gotten married. I never cease to be struck at what a great mystery we are to one another, even (and maybe most especially) among those you would think might know us best. It is an amazing privilege to be present in those moments. 

On occasion, I have presided at the funeral for a family where one or more members of that family have been estranged from one another, perhaps for years or even decades. It’s such a hard thing to bear witness to: as people choose different corners of the room or cross their arms or perhaps speak to one another by directing their comments to me. I won't say it happens often. But it happens.

It’s with these eyes especially (more than with the eyes of a great Biblical scholar) that I come to the text before us today. I find myself watching Ishmael and Isaac, these two grown men who have come together to bury their father. The last time we saw Ishmael he was a teen-ager—being sent away with his mother.  We know only a little more about what has been going on in Isaac’s life. Our only real encounter with him—the one that we (and certainly he) can never forget was on that horrible day when he and his father climbed Mount Moriah.

And so I catch myself watching these two brothers and wondering what it would be like to be their pastor in this moment. Looking for clues about the kind of men they have become. Wondering whether this shared grief will bring them together or whether it will re-open old and painful wounds.  Wondering, even, if they are yet able to grieve, given the terrible memories each has about his relationship to this father who was larger than life, this man who staked his life on the Voice. (If you think it’s hard to be a “PK,” just imagine what it would have been like to be Abraham’s kid!)

I find myself looking for a simple gesture. Does one or the other put an arm on his brother’s shoulder? Or is that simply not possible? Do they gather back at Isaac’s tent afterwards for hummus and olives and pita and wine? Or is that invitation not extended to Ishmael? 

I have no way to answer these questions, of course. All any of us can say for sure is that as far as the Biblical narrative is concerned, Ishmael disappears after the funeral. The future belongs to Isaac, and to his son, Jacob, and to his twelve sons. He’s the one whom we are told is “blessed by God.” He’s the one we tell our children and our children’s children about in Sunday School.

I do realize that the narrator’s questions aren’t necessarily mine. And yet there’s no getting around the simple point that Ishmael is there. That the narrator makes a point of telling us he is there, even when it would have been easier to just say: “Abraham died, after a good long life, and he was buried in the cave of Machpelah.”

But the narrator insists on telling us that both of Abraham’s sons were there. And then, as so often happens at weddings or funerals when we see long-lost relatives we haven’t seen for years, the narrator turns to us, almost in a whisper, to say:

You remember Ishmael…the one whom Hagar the Egyptian, Sarah’s slave-girl, bore to Abraham.

Yes. How could we forget? 

And then, before the story can continue, before the narrative can move forward to those twins in Rebekah’s womb and to the twelve sons of Jacob who will be called Israel…these twelve sons of Ishmael are named:

…named in the order of their birth: Nebaioth, the firstborn of Ishmael; and Kedar, Adbeel, Mibsam, Mishma, Dumah, Massa, Hadad, Tema, Jetur, Naphish, and Kedemeh, by their villages and by their encampments, twelve princes according to their tribes. (This is the length of the life of Ishmael, 137 years of age…[his people] settled from Havilah to Shur, opposite Egypt, in the direction of Assyria.)

You could go to Church your whole life, and if like mine the lectionary has virtually succeeded in replacing the Bible, you will never hear this text read aloud. You will never hear about all those cousins who settled opposite Egypt, in the direction of Assyria. In fact, it took a journalist named Bruce Feiler, in his remarkable book, Abraham: A Journey to the Heart of Three Faiths to get me to take a closer look at this text.

Before I traveled here for what has been my last required course for a D.Min from this seminary, I sat one morning and did my best Karl Barth imitation: the Bible in one hand, the newspaper in the other. On the front page of the Worcester Telegram and Gazette that day were two photographs that I’m sure you all have seen, whether these or ones like them. One was of a group of Palestinians grieving the death of a child killed by the Israeli government. And the other was of a group of Israelis grieving the death of a child killed by a suicide bomber. Grief and fear were so apparent in both pictures, and I could only imagine what it be like to sit down in a room with any of them to plan a funeral.

Once upon a time these photos would have felt very foreign to me. But since 9/11, if is very easy for me to imagine a third photo next to the other two—one taken, perhaps, at Ground Zero on that clear September morning in lower Manhattan. So that the looks on the faces in all three pictures are virtually indistinguishable, all these children of Abraham, separated by fear, and by fundamentalisms of various flavors, and by terrible grief and violence.

After centuries of estrangement from one another do you think these children of Abraham—Christians, Jews and Muslims—will ever find the path to reconciliation? Or will an “eye for an eye” indeed make this whole world blind?

Surely the covenant God has made with us in Baptism compels us to be peacemakers: to enter into conversations that may yet lead to forgiveness, and healing, and hope. Surely it matters, now more than ever, how we speak in our congregations, and how we who are pastors (or are training to become pastors) help our congregations to speak.

At a bare minimum, we need to find ways of getting re-acquainted with these long lost cousins, these children of Ishmael who settled “from Havilah to Shur, opposite Egypt, in the direction of Assyria.”

One of these “distant cousins” of ours whom I am only beginning to get to know is the 13th century Sufi mystic, Rumi, who was born in what we would call Afghanistan in 1207. I decided earlier this week to “Google” Rumi, looking for a way to conclude this sermon. Among other things, I found myself “surfing” to a twelfth-century “illumination” on one of those sites dedicated to Rumi. It was an image of “Father Abraham,” and he had all of his children—Jews, Christians, and Muslims—sitting on his “large enough for all” lap.

It’s that image of hope that I want to define the kind of Christian I am becoming, an image beyond the terror of those photographs of Christians, Jews, and Muslims separated by their fear and their grief.

We gather, in just a few moments, at the Table of our Lord. As we share bread and wine we participate in one of the two sacraments that most uniquely defines us as “separate from” the rest of the world. It makes us different from Muslims and Jews, a people called to be salt, and light, and yeast to the world by Jesus the Christ. We claim through this sacrament that this same Jesus is alive, and here; now, in our very midst. We remember who we are, and whose we are when we take and bless and break and share the one bread, and the one cup. 

And yet—and for me this is one of the great mysteries of our faith—our host is the very One who ate and drank with just about anyone who wanted to come. Even the “dogs” who wanted only to gather up the crumbs under the table. He reached out his arms of love not just to the Church, but to the whole world, that everyone might come within the reach of his saving embrace. The paradox, I think, is that what makes us most unique is also that which makes us most radically aware that the resurrected Christ cannot be contained by us or by our theologies.

If that is so, then perhaps it is not to dishonor Christ but to claim his truest nature by looking for his face and listening for his voice wherever our travels take us in this mysterious and broken world—even beyond those who claim his name. I offer in that spirit the words of one of our long-lost cousins, the Sufi poet, Rumi, in bidding us to gather and to be fed yet again:

                                    Come, come, whoever you are.
                                    Wonderer, worshipper, lover of leaving.
                                    It doesn’t matter.
                                    Ours is not a caravan of despair.
                                    Come, even if you have broken your vow
                                                a thousand times.
                                    Come, yet again, come, come.

Ours is most definitely not a “caravan of despair.” Thanks be to God!

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